Nicole Bettis

How can I tell my boyfriend of 3 years that now I want to start practicing “safe-sex”? I don’t want him do think that I don’t trust him.
Diva, 26, male
Washington, DC

Well, first I would just come right out and say it and then, depending on his response, I would start justifying my reasoning. Tell him that trust has absolutely nothing to do with why you want to begin practicing safe-sex (even if it does). Explain that there are many diseases that can be transmitted sexually, that are contracted through innocent circumstances. Let him know that this decision will benefit the both of you and help to promote a much safer relationship. If, after all this, he still is a little less than compliant with your decision, ask him, “What are his reasons for not wanting to have safer-sex?”

My ex-girlfriend is crazy! We have been broken up for about three months now and for the past few weeks she’s been terrorizing my love life. She pops up at places I go on dates; she sits outside my house at all hours of the night; and she calls me about fifty times a day! How can I get her to understand that we are over?
Mia, 21, female
Owings Mills, MD

Mia, call the police. I believe the correct term for what she is doing is harassment.

Is it normal for lesbians to wear thir “straps” all hours of the day”?
Tiffany 30, female

I don’t necessarily believe in the word “normal”, so I don’t know if it’s normal for lesbians to wear their straps all day. But, I can tell you that it is common. Some women like the idea of being able to experience penetration spontaneously and one of the best ways to do that is, having their mate wear the strap all day. I can say from experience that it is a real mood killer to be in the middle of sex and feel your girlfriend get up to put the damn thing on ;).

“I’m thinking about taking some male enhancement supplements. I don’t know, I just feel like my man isn’t happy with my size.”
Anonymous, 33, male
Bowie, MD

You know how I feel about jumping to conclusions. Ask him. More than likely, if he hasn’t said anything…he may not be the one unhappy about YOUR size. How do you feel about it? Figure those things out and go from there. But, if you do decide to take the supplements be careful. After Anna Nicole, those things freak me out!

Thought of the week:
“If you stop and think, you’ll think to stop!”

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